Comfortable or Happy

One of my friend girls asked me “Why was she so afraid to accept a possible ‘good’ thing?”  She is currently involved in a relationship with a fairly decent guy. He is working to gain his stability. Like many men, He has been a victim to our brutal economy. Now you may say what’s wrong with growing and building with a brother? Nothing, there is nothing wrong with helping a man achieve his goals. Ask yourself first: Is his goals a priority or are you making his goals a priority? You can’t help anyone that doesn’t want to help themselves.  You can guide them into the right direction, but without the right motivation they will surely fall back into the same habits. You, meaning the woman, will be left picking up the pieces while he finds other interest.

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Back to my friend, she has the possiblity of another suitor. He lives in another state. He has his act together and knows how to keep it together. What’s the problem? He is the ‘good’ thing . Another problem: they been down this road before, as teenagers. Is there a difference? They are both adults who experienced other relationships. Will it work now? Is it worth giving it another try? Can you really predict what type of future they may have based on a teenage love affair? But what about the current relationship? Is my friend jumping ship because he is head toward an iceberg?

Purple Cocoa’s Thoughts: You have to do what’s best for you at the end of the day. Do not deny yourself happiness because you are healing someone else’s misery. If you are not married and not in a committed relationship, you have every right to explore your other options. Do be sensitive to other’s feelings but not so sensitive that you get caught up. You get very few chances to have real love.  Think about the quality of a relationship that you would like to have with your partner. Sometimes you need a person who feeds you a little more than you feed them.

Smoochies!